When a person gets to know himself, he better understands his true and imposed needs, and navigates his life. Everyone can find the innate resources of nature, to correct flaws of character if they want to. But you have to do it methodically and consistently. Also, it is important to understand people, group and interpersonal communications, to develop irrational thinking. Psychologists expertology gathered working methods and suggested to find answers to sacred questions through reflection and reflection.
✅ What is self-discovery??
The desire to know more about yourself comes from dissatisfaction and lack of fulfillment. False attitudes and advice force the majority to choose the wrong decisions and walk away from the destination. A teacher by nature becomes a failed manager, a talented entrepreneur treats people, a programmer sells hardware and quietly hates customers.
In periods of despair or crisis, there is a desire to explore personal mental and physical characteristics, to make sense of a place in life with the help of philosophical, logical reflections, comparisons, analysis. Finding answers to the questions: “What am I like??”, “What is my role in life?” Is possible through passive self-contemplation and dynamic mental inquiry. Although it is a difficult and long process, it is important for thinking people to know what the soul wants.
It reveals the predestination and goals prescribed in the fate matrix.
Teaches to pass through age crises and not to be afraid of life.
Helps to struggle with conflicting beliefs and desires.
Forms a personal value system.
Gives you the opportunity to get to know yourself anew.
Difference analysis, formed cognitive and cognitive perceptions, awareness of motives for actions help in this. Without self-discovery and identifying goals it is impossible to find a job in vocation, the person you love, to raise healthy children, to live in harmony with yourself and the world.
Self-awareness in psychology is viewed through the prism of the inner self. Under the influence of socio-cultural factors, it transforms over the course of life. In comprehending internal processes, the individual acts as both an object and a subject. They influence the creation of a psychological entity or image of the “I”, finding the properties and qualities that make the personality unique.
When Socrates was asked how he achieved wisdom, He answered succinctly: “I have come to know myself. The philosopher had in mind the connection of the self with the mind, finding a balance of soul and body harmony. Religious philosophers (St. Augustine) believed that the way to self-knowledge is through the power of prayer and ascesis. The representatives of Taoist traditions, Buddhists and oriental philosophers formed their opinion. They all overlap in meaning, but differ in the way they work on themselves.
In the middle of the twentieth centuryA. Maslow and K. Rogers proposed a unique “self-concept” of personality. It is an organized part of mental experience that contains self-perceptions and a set of ideas about oneself. It serves as a link between the value levels and exists as a subjective space. The adaptive concept includes 3 components:
cognitive partwith the presentation of personal qualities, social status;
emotional and evaluative, formed on adequate self-esteem, experiences, ideas about oneself, self-love, vanity.
behavioral, The cognitive part is conditioned by the worldview and social attitudes.
The formed self-appraisal is not always objective. When analyzed inadequately it can be overstated or understated, which affects the claims – the difficulty of achieving goals. But the key aspect of the self-concept is self-respect. It is necessary to recognize the personality in oneself, to correct mistakes that have been made.
Ways of knowing
The desire to know more about oneself is formed gradually. We distinguish 3 main periods: the instinctive at an early age; the crisis of the primary self-knowledge at a later stage; the conscious desire to find oneself at psychological maturity. The goal of research is to incorporate knowledge into one’s life, correcting weaknesses. The process is complex and built on conflict, as learning yourself from the inside reveal not only the bright side, but also the dark side of personality. Self-knowledge occurs on 4 levels:
Sensory.It is formed by receiving and processing primary information from the external environment in the form of feelings, visual representations, emotions and impressions.
Rational.It is composed of mathematical, philosophical, religious knowledge. A person is able to reflect upon time, to analyze events. My knowledge of the world is based on irrational deductions and experience.
Social.Contacts with the world help get feedback, reactions to actions, statements. These can be studied in the context of self-identity to compare with behavioral standards.
Observation of the environment
The principle is built on the experience of interacting with others and focuses on the reference group. They relate behavior, values to reference socio-cultural norms, and characterize. Then compares on a scale of opposites: fortunate-unlucky, ignorant-educated. Critical evaluation of others often hurts one’s ego and makes one helpless in the face of public opinion.
However, the way has a plus side, because it helps you fit into the socio-cultural standards. After the correction of behavior, the person adapts and becomes unremarkable. The problem is that individual qualities are lost after a change. The false self necessarily ends in an identity crisis.
One discovers inner strength through one’s creativity and experiences real feelings and experiences. They affect inner world development, consciousness, thinking. It is also called psychotherapeutic, because the individual experiences a number of emotions as:
Reflection. It redirects the mental vector to the mind for analysis. In a calm state, it, like internal observation, examines behavior, past actions, thoughts, feelings.
Self-reflectionAimed at finding cause-and-effect patterns, failures or successes, identifying bodily sensations.
Critical evaluationand awareness provide an opportunity to look at oneself from a different perspective.
Self-AcceptanceGives insight into weaknesses and strengths, needs, the need for self-improvement.
One can learn more about oneself by other methods: by self-discovery and with the help of meditation. The internal look forms a generalized attitude toward oneself, a personal self-esteem. If a person is ready to accept himself, the ego is strengthened. On the contrary, if complaints accumulate, inner irritation increases and dissatisfaction with themselves grows. When examining the inner world, avoid criticism and accept everything as it is. It relieves moral distress and motivates change.
Questions about oneself
To find the key to your soul, answer the questions honestly, even if they seem trivial.
What do I see the meaning of life in??
What I don’t like to do?
What activities do I enjoy?
How do I feel about failures??
How often do I get disappointed??
Do I suffer from depression?
What are my weaknesses/strengths?
How I treat myself and my close ones?
What I want to do?
What qualities of character need strengthening?
How I see the ideal image of myself?
What inspires it?
Why do I need money, and what would I spend a million on??
What knowledge I want to have?
I am happy/unhappy and why?
Continue the list yourself.
Keep a diary for self-knowledge. You will be surprised what thoughts come into your head and what reactions you give to events. Understand your personality, determine predictability of behavior, compatibility of characters.
This is best done at the end of the day in a relaxed state. If you are not ready to write on 2-3 pages, formulate your thoughts in theses. Outline events, and draw conclusions. Write down your impressions after a conversation with your boss, girlfriend, give reasons for the bad / good mood. Soon you will have the desire to make a personality map. It will be a tool for personal development and help improve life. The method is designed to find answers to sacred questions: “What do I want,” “Where am I going and with whom am I going?”.
Create a table in a computer program for easy editing with four columns and sign it: locations, artifacts, situations, people. The goals of building a map:
To collect the stimuli, the meanings, the reasons that formed the core of the personality;
Create mental connections and get answers and clues;
Refresh your life story.
With a change of residence or work, smooth out impressions in your memory. When remembering situations, you often have to reconstruct. When you have a list, it’s easy to access any information. It works like a mental map. Include in this branch all the places important to you, including the powers that be, where ideas have come to mind.
In “Artifacts,” put in mental or contemplative practices that evoke energy elevations: music, painting, material objects.
In “Situations,” add important physical and mental events. If you’ve been keeping a journal for a long time, this will make it easier to find. If not, write what you remember.
Consider the “Who am I” answers in context with the people you care about to complete the picture. They will be clues to the “Who am I with?. Include relatives, loved ones, friends, members of companies/organizations. Highlight the people who make an impact on your life and those who deserve special respect.
How to Work?
Each of the branches works as random stimuli,described by E. de Bono in the book” Lateral Thinking.”. If you’re not sure of the decision, ask how characters from inspirational works in Artifacts and people in authority would do. Since they are mentally connected to you, will give the right clue.
The “People” and “Places” columns will help you recall the events and problems of that period. Moving along the time line, identify the pattern of recurring events, find the reason in “Events”. Make notes for yourself, review the story, and make updates to the map. Soon you will notice that the branches will begin to add new details and become more informative. Try it, and you’ll learn a lot about yourself.